Working towards your mentoring goals

Once you and your mentor have got to know each other, it’s time to really start working towards your goals. This factsheet aims to help you and your mentor to do this.

Focus on your goals

Set goals – You might find that using management tools, like a Strengths, Opportunities, Aspirations and Results (SOAR) audit, can help you consider how to develop your skills to meet your goals. You could also use an approach like GROW (see below) to set goals for each of your sessions.

Log what you’re learning – After each meeting, email your mentor with a short list of key learning points and actions from the session. You might find it useful to keep a log of each session for yourself too. Highlight any useful tips and ideas that come up, as well as new goals or queries you’d like to discuss with your mentor. This will help you reflect on what you’ve learned and give direction to your future sessions. It’s also a useful tool to refer back to when you’ve finished your mentoring.

Keep a work diary – You might also want to keep a work diary to help you organise your thoughts, recognise your skills and notice issues as they come up that might be useful to talk to your mentor about. Ahead of each meeting, email your mentor to let them know what you’d like to discuss.

Reviewing the relationship

Allow for change – You might find that your objectives change as the process moves forward. Stay aware of what you want from the mentoring relationship. You may get to a point where it feels like your mentor is no longer a good match for your objectives or that things have come to a natural end. This can be a normal part of the process. Let your mentor know if you’d like to draw it to a close. Contact CharityComms at any point if you’d like to discuss this more.

Give feedback – Keep communicating with your mentor and let your mentor know how you’re finding the sessions. Is there anything you’re finding particularly helpful? Anything you’d like to being doing more of or less of? Don’t forget to keep revisiting your objectives too.

Plan ahead – Always try to have dates in the diary for your next few meetings. If you’re suddenly very busy, or you’re changing jobs, let your mentor know as soon as possible. Tell CharityComms too.

Talk to CharityComms – Sometimes mentors get very busy with work or something else stops them from getting in touch. If that happens, do let CharityComms know and we’ll look into it for you.

“It’s important not to be too rigid about the structure of your mentoring relationship. Our agreed approach meant I knew I could bring current problems to meetings that I needed more senior, non-competitive, input on. I have a special notebook dedicated to my mentoring and only use this to write notes in during sessions. Having notes in one place makes it easier to revisit that learning. My mentoring was an invaluable learning process.”

Sally Clark
Head of communications

Read more top tips and guidance about being a mentee in our mentee resources section.